As a partner in achieving our mission to strengthen and support children, youth, individuals and families, we appreciate your commitment to the Yorktown Shelter for Women. Having a Male Child-Advocate Worker is one profound example of the positive impact we are accomplishing together.
With your help, Yorktown Shelter for Women will continue to lead the way by providing support to not only the women who need shelter, but also to male and female children by offering support and education in a male-positive environment.
Your donation will ensure we continue to offer innovative and relevant programming and opportunities, like employing a Male Child-Advocate Worker, to those we support.
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I am thrilled to report to you that in January 2016, Yorktown Shelter for Women became the first shelter for women and children fleeing abuse to employ a Male Child-Advocate Worker.
This breakthrough initiative has been a long time coming. We recognize how important it is to have a positive male role model at a women’s shelter, not just for the boys, but for girls, and women clients, as well. For many, this may be their first exposure to regular contact with a positive male role model, an opportunity that helps to break down some very significant barriers and perceptions around gender roles.
You are an important partner in bringing this initiative to life! Your previous donation of 23.23 helped provide the funding for services that help women and children transition from lives of abuse. I know we can count on your gift this year to fund the Male Child-Advocate Worker, a forward-thinking, critical role that is creating break-through positive changes for Shelter clients.
I would like to share with you some real life stories from our shelter showing the impact of having Harry Au, Male Child-Advocate Worker on our team.
Kevin*, 14, currently the eldest child client at the Yorktown Shelter for Women says, “It’s a good thing Harry is here because this is an abuse shelter, and most women would think that most men are bad but then Harry can change their minds; because he’s a male and he’s very good at what he does. Harry helps change their minds about stereotyping everyone because of what one person has done.”
“Sharing something with a male is a little better for a male because he can actually relate to what you’re saying. Harry has gotten to know me and we talk about how to live and adapt. Harry also talks to me about stuff I can do outside of here. He gave me volunteer options. He told me about a boxing program. I’m interested in a lot of sports and sometimes Harry and I play basketball.”
Zarene* a mother who arrived at the Shelter with her 10-year-old son six months ago, says, “Before I came here with my son, Davi* I noticed that he was adopting his father’s demeanor. He was disrespectful and overly assertive with me. Harry has really helped him to understand that men don’t have to be aggressive. Davi’s disposition is calmer and I see a more peaceful boy since Harry has been working with him.”
While the impact of fatherlessness, or an abusive male role model affects all children, specific detriments for boys in the absence of a positive male mentor have been identified. According to a five-year study of children and teens conducted by the mentoring organization Big Brothers Big Sisters, boys who grow up without positive male role models:
- are more likely to use and abuse drugs and alcohol,
- are more prone to anger and violent behaviour,
- are more apt to be affected and influenced by peer pressure, and
- are more likely to perform poorly in school.
With your help, Yorktown Shelter for Women will continue to lead the way in changing these statistics by providing support to not only the women who need shelter, but also to male and female children by offering support and education in a male-positive environment.
“It would be an unfortunate loss to us all to not have this valuable role at Yorktown Shelter for Women.” – Maria Jesus Docando, Child Advocate Worker, Yorktown Shelter for Women.
Thank you for helping us to bring a positive male role model to our clients. Their future will be strengthened because of your support.
With heartfelt thanks,
Director of the Yorktown Shelter for Women
*Identity has been changed to protect client’s privacy
Please contact Andrea Holmes with any questions or concerns.